Paul needed a re-up on his Office 365 subscription hence why I actually received an invite for brunch on Saturday. As much as we have mutual love and care for each other we don’t really go out of our way to plan time together — partly because it just seems to happen by accident and partly because he like my bestie Brian are simply not the type you make plans with if you have an “always on time let’s get this shit done” type of personality like mine. I imagine a great many arguments would have been avoided had we both realized our stuck points.
One thing I can confidently say is, while we bust each other’s balls nearly endlessly, sometimes too much, I don’t even have a modicum of doubt that Paul would and will always be there for me, and similarly I would be for him, He has never once put me down or made me feel bad about myself…in fact, he’s sometimes reminded me of my hotness (his words, not mine) and as one does if you are Jason or Paul, you do so by just grabbing the other person’s ass.
In the past decade some of my most fun, crazy and memorable moments were with Paul along with a fair number of “thank god they didn’t have camera/video capable phones back then” moments. (I’d like that VHS tape retired once and for all.) I think that I have adored Paul for all that he is and is not since the moment I met him, and he’s done the same for me, forgiving me the many ridiculous things I did in my early 20s.
What some may or may not know is that Paul and I dated. Unbeknownst to me and playing the field as I did then, I went on a date with his friend and now my bestie Brian which for a while was a pretty sizeable schism in the fabric of gay Seattle. My relationship with Brian went literally straight to bed. Brian and I got so drunk at a Mariners game that we just went home to my place and slept and forever more have been friends. Paul was much more invested than I had realized and was hurt for some time. All water under the bridge now but regardless of all of that he’s been a steadfast friend to me. (Dear god, this blog still exists: http://andrewboredatwork.blogspot.com).
Curtis swooped in while I was busy off finding myself and he and Paul have been together since — since the night at Manray with the letters. :) Curtis is kind, gentle, thoughtful and patient in all the ways that Paul is…less those things. I really value both of their friendship and was so charmed to see the little dance they do on this video. I see so much of the last 13 years of knowing these two guys in the video.
Love you both — thanks for being part of my life. Enjoy your dance…I sure did! :)
PROTIP — I’ve gotten a few notes about these particular blog posts — frankly, these are the type that I post just for me and the other person but a few people have said it gives them ideas/reminders for people or situations they are grateful for and though I don’t think I’m particularly eloquent in my writing, apparently it’s also helpful “phrasing.” If that’s the case, plagiarize away but just make sure you tell people the Why which explains the reasons you love them.